Love and sexuality
Today, I will be talking about Love and Sexuality. My name Is Marcin Bogucki and I am a Psychotherapist in Private Counselling Practice. All information that you find here is from my psychotherapy practice and educational material from continued professional development.
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Our sexuality could be weak or strong, and sex is the central aspects of the partner relationship which could be motivated or demotivate for all of us. Love, together with awareness and understanding, is what brings us into a relationship with the people and things around us. In essence, love is a relationship that should be built on respect and trust on both sides.
According to Frankl, the founder of Logotherapy, the only way to understand other human beings as they indeed are at their innermost core is to love them. In Frankl’s psychotherapeutic system love is as fundamental and powerful force in human life as are the drives for sex and power. Victor Frankl expresses that connection beautifully in one of his books:
“Two are superior to one since they have a decent return for their work: If one tumbles down, his companion can enable him to up. Be that as it may, feel sorry for the man who falls and has nobody to enable him to.”
Our relationship in this life according to simple rules is attachment, love and dependency, building a great human existence. Comparably says Yalom in his existential psychotherapy book.
“To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.”
― Irvin D. Yalom,
All loving relationships contain ambivalent feelings. As humans, we know how to love because we learn from our parents or caregivers. Our initial associations with guardians and parents assist us with forming an attachment to love which endures throughout our lives. This is once in a while alluded to as transference. Freud called attention to when we discover an affection process, we are really “re-discovering” it.
On the other hand, it is the subconscious creation of our own world with a partner to receive what we did not receive in childhood or to maintain what we have already received with satisfaction from our parents and guardians. Nurturing what is good or possible struggle to “fix” what is imperfect.
Thus, the regularly perceived wonder of people who select accomplices helps them to remember their mother/father.
We have all observed it in our family or in others. A person whom we love is a part of ourselves. Freud described something unusual and similar. We include aspects of those we love in ourselves. Their characteristics, beliefs, feelings, and attitudes become part of our psyche. He called this process “internalisation”. Expressions like “my spouse are my better half” or “I am searching for my soul mate” contain Freud’s conception of the depth of the relationship between people who love each other.
That of the considerable number of variables in human life that anticipate the best positive results, reliable connections are number one. These explorations demonstrated discoveries incorporating to what extent we live, the soundness of our bodies, the prosperity of our psyches, and the joy we involve throughout everyday life.
Research shows that people who live in a healthy relationship are less depressed and no suicidal and happier and live healthier. It is proven that a human who has a disease has more chance to survive when they will be in a relationship with others and stay with a group rather than have to suffer alone.
This was especially noticed in the case of observations of children who lived in an orphanage. Those who were separated from the others died early of the same disease. This is sufficient evidence that man should stay together with other individuals in difficult times. A quite similar situation took place in the extermination camps during the Second World War, where mutual comfort helped many to survive, and those who were deprived of companions died much faster alone. One has to look not far to find many such examples in human existence.
Moreover, this is the reason why relationships are important. The evidence that humans are social animals is extensive and concrete. The right combinations are a fundamental part of human health. Careful consideration of acquaintances, family, and other relationships can enable a person to improve well-being and flourish. It is through identification with other individuals that one develops and makes progress in expansion and growth by experiencing affection in love and importance. We all depend on someone and something – and this something is usually made up of other units in society. That’s why we know that individuals play a key role in our lives.
As we already know, “our sexuality can be weak or strong, and sex is a central aspect of a relationship that can be motivated or degraded for all of us.” Sexual desire or liboido, whatever we call it, is dictated by the desire to establish a relationship through a relationship or some other form, still dictated by the desire to be together. Love and sexuality is such a broad topic that it’s hard to describe it in just a few words. In order to delve into such a subject, one should also look at this fact from the point of view of religion as it was already said “that God has linked holiness with sin”, this dependence derives from our knowledge of religion and beliefs. Another aspect is love for oneself and for the same sex. We can see for ourselves how measurable it is and how the topic expands. When I finish writing this article, I see myself what a potential man has in himself and how can I describe this topic to make it more accessible and raise such an important issue as sexuality in our existence.
Thank you for listening and see you soon.
Your host Marcin Bogucki on Private Psychotherapy Practice with Remote Counselling.
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